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How on earth does this happen to me? March 27, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Community, My Brigade, Our Home, Random Thoughts.
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 Damn my practical-nature-ness!

Damn my having-a-clue-ness!

I ask the guy who I thought was coordinating the RFS school cadet programme what’s going on and next thing I know I’m organising meetings for him and helping put together programmes.

I go to a community safety meeting and next thing I know I’m meant to be organising the team activities and getting people to a course next month after having completed numerous workbooks.

I volunteer to help at a P & F fundraiser and next thing I know I’m helping organise the damn thing.


I just should sit on my hands and keep my mouth shut!



I’m helping pick up a fire truck, finishing a work book, passing on course acceptances and apologies, distributing workbooks, dropping off raffle prizes,  chasing up chairs and a BBQ and an urn, starting to put together a programme outline for cadets, and chasing helpers on top of what I was already doing tomorrow  with cleaning, fixing mum’s pc – again, and getting hubby organised for a weekend away at a 4WD course.

Fun, fun.


Photo’s please! March 14, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Kids, Random Thoughts, school, TJ.
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I haven’t posted yet today as I am waiting to see what my young fella brings home with him.

His class went on excursion today to the Abercrombie Caves a couple of hours from here.

For past excursions we have given him disposable 35mm camera’s to use. We figured that they were cheap enough not to worry if he lost or damaged them and worked well enough for a small boy to take photos with.

But he’s nearly 9 now and in primary, so this morning we let him take his sister’s digital camera. (mind you it’s pink lol!)

When he gets home and we load the memory card onto the pc we will hopefully have some nice photos. Or at least ones that I can edit. And I shall show you one of the natural wonders of my part of the country.

Phone Etiquette? March 13, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Friends, Funny Stuff, Random Thoughts.
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Typically when I answer the phone I say “hello”.

Some people answer the phone by simply saying their name.

Commonly in workplaces, the business name will be stated followed by some kind of greating. For example “Blah Blah My Business, Bettina speaking”.

In Japan they say “moshi moshi”

The other day, when I answered my phone, I barely get the word “hello” out when I am answered with “Fucking Bitch”

Apparently, so I’m told by reliable sources, this is how you greet one another on the phone in New Zealand.

Interesting people those Kiwi’s. Interesting people.

Just thought I should warn you, dear readers, for if you should ever happen to encounter this strange phenonema on your own phone. It’s not a crackpot prank calling you – it’s just a cheerful Kiwi, greeting you according to their local customs.


Friendship Chain March 8, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Blogging stuff, Friends, Random Thoughts.
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We all know how much us bloggers loves us some linky love. Here is an easy way to spread your linky love this week with the Friendship Chain.

~~Begin Copy~~

This is the easy way and the fastest way to :

1. Make your Authority Technorati explode.

2. Increase your Google Page Rank.

3. Get more traffic to your blog.

4. Makes more new friends.

Rules :

1. Start copy from “Begin Copy” until “End Copy” and paste to your blog.

2. Put your own blog name and link.

3. Tag your friends as much as you can.

1. Picturing of Life 2. Juliana’s Site 3. Hazel-My Life, My Hope, My Future 4. Jeanne-The Callalily Space 5. Colin from Life 6. Sue – Blogging Sueblimely 7. Lightening Online 8.Dances To The Beet Of Her Own Drum  9. put yourself here

~~End Copy~~

So I tag everyone. This is quick and easy folks. A simple copy and paste and add your own link in. Should only take ya’ll a scant few minutes each to put up.

Before and After February 27, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in My Brigade, Random Thoughts.
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The mountain before we put in a hazard reduction burn.


The mountain after we put in a hazard reduction burn.


What to do? February 24, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Friends, Ramblings, Random Thoughts.
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The 16 year old daughter of two of our friends was beaten up on Friday night. She and a friend were sitting out the front of the friend’s house waiting for some other friends to arrive late at night when a group of passing girls called out to her asking if they had her name right. When she replied that they did, they proceeded to accuse her of hanging shit on some of their friends.

She had no idea who these girls were let alone who or what they were talking about and told them so, she then tried to go inside the house. Three of the girls grabbed her from behind and hit her around the head till she dropped to the ground at which point they started kicking her. The other three girls held her friend to stop her from being able to interfere or get help.

The last thing she remembers is one of the girls telling another girl to stop. The next thing she knew the police were trying to talk to her.

She had a badly bleeding nose, cut lip, cuts on her face, swelling to the left hand side of her face, lumps on her head, and bruising over her back. The poor kid is now too scared to stay in her own house on her own while her mum goes to Woollies, two blocks away, to get milk and bread.

She doesn’t know the girls, but can identify them. The problem is if she presses charges, the girls will go out of their way to try to cause trouble for her or make life unpleasant. If, on the other hand she doesn’t press charges, they’ll think she’s an easy target and who knows what will happen then.

The thing that pisses me off most about it is this – it doesn’t help that if she does press charges, the girls involved will just get a slap over the wrist and probably be laughing about getting away with beating the crap out of a girl they don’t even know as they leave the courthouse.

I wish the courts would do their job and actually make people responsible for their actions instead of merely inconvenienced. Sentences should be a deterrent not a joke.

Toxic Friendships February 5, 2008

Posted by Mistress B in Friends, Hubby, Random Thoughts, Relationships.
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  1. Of, relating to, or caused by a toxin or other poison
  2. Capable of causing injury or death, poisonous


  1. The quality or condition of being friends.
  2. A friendly relationship
  3. Friendliness; good will

Hardly seems right for the two words to go together does it?

Toxic (poison) + Friendship (condition of being friends) = Dangerous relationship

We have found ourselves over the past few years somehow involved in some toxic friendships. Last year I had occasion to disagree with one of these couples over a particular issue and have not been forgiven. After the initial disagreement I was then apparently meant to just take being abused both in person and over the phone, being bad mouthed all over town, being kicked off courses, having complaints made about me, being glared at, ignored, spoken to rudely, lied to and falsely accused of numerous things for the next six months, on the chin.

Oh and did I mention that I’m meant to agree that they never did anything wrong and it’s all my fault because how dare I disagree with them after all they’ve done for me?

Now there’s a couple of things about friendships that I thought were universals truths.

  • Friends don’t keep score.
  • Friends can disagree or even argue without the relationship necessitating being finished.
  • People change over time and that’s OK.

Friends display loyalty and feel a sense of obligation towards each other , sure I can accept that. If you are my friend and get involved in my life you can even expect that. You can also expect that I will get involved in your life and try to support you in the things that you are going through. But if you decide to be my friend and support me in my life you do not get to sit there and rattle off a list of things that you have done for me during the course of our friendship in an attempt to guilt me in to seeing things your way if your actions/opinions/beliefs compromise my own morals and convictions. That is not reasoning, that is manipulation.

Friendship involves relationships between different people. It’s nice to hang around people who think like I do, but it’s also refreshing to be around people who have other view points too. Differences between people ensure that there will be disagreement from time to time and that’s OK. Friends don’t always have to agree as long as they can agree to disagree. Disagreements, and even periods of anger do not necessarily mean that a friendship is over, it just means that things got a bit heated and that both people need some cooling off space and time.

People are, by nature, changeable. We are constantly learning, growing, changing and adapting. Our lives are constantly moving through different stages and cycles. Friendships can wax and wane as this happens. Often friends will find themselves in different seasons to each other and gravitate towards other people in a similar one. Like attracts like and all that. This too is OK.

But not according to our toxic friends. We are meant to stay the same, be blindly loyal, always agree and always compromise because of everything they have ever done for us. My universal truths don’t seem to work when only when party knows them.

  1. Of, relating to, or caused by a toxin or other poison
  2. Capable of causing injury or death, poisonous

I think this friendship is well and truly dead.